It's Raining Outside

As we reflect back on relationships in our lives, both good and bad ones we hope that it was a learning experience. And even though people get sad when the good ones come to an end you hope to gain something positive out of it. You learn that you can’t always expect people to live up to your expectations and standards. You learn that forcing others to think and care about things that matter to you does not always benefit them. You learn that there a fine line between giving advice to someone and being judgmental. You learn that your words of wisdom might come of as pretentious and might hurt other people’s feelings. Most importantly you learn that you have to talk about your relationship problems and have an open communication medium. Without communication there is chaos.

People say that friendships are supposed to be people’s comfort zones in life. They are these zones where you can escape and be yourself and be part of a stress free environment. Unfortunately that’s only the easy zone that we all love and want to experience 100% of the time, but there comes a time when we also have to deal with the uncomfortable zone which is all the fights, arguments, quarrels, disagreements, and all the other dramatic elements. At the end I believe that it’s the friendship’s ability to endure the hardships that will ultimately decide its fate. Its survival will be the only factor that will determine the solidity of original state of its foundation.

So you engage in battles destroying and rebuilding with intentions to avoid what could be an inevitable collapse at any point in time. You hope that both sides try their best to sustain the linkage, but if one gives up then it makes much harder for the other to keep going. Regardless of the ending result which can lead to convergence or divergence, you hope that both people walk away satisfied knowing that they gave their utmost effort in what at best would be maintaining and rebuilding it, or at worst, ending what once was a common link.